I’m 64 years old and had suffered from varying degrees of anxiety since childhood
As the years went by I suffered from frequent bouts of anxiety and depression, often just mild, but sometimes severe and incapacitating; accompanied by panic attacks. There were also times when I had acute anxiety and depression and was hospitalised. Of course, the decades were filled with doctors visits, anti-depressants, counselling, CPNs, and any other method I had hoped would help to relieve me of this terrible affliction.
It was horrible being me
I couldn’t escape me or take a holiday from me; I had to live with me 24/7; it was exhausting being me. The only rest I got from myself was when I slept, but even sleep was sporadic.
I first attempted suicide (in my own feeble way) as a child, and those attempts would happen when I couldn’t cope with being me or this part of this life any longer. Thankfully, my attempts, which at times were brutal, all failed. But still, I was a nervy little thing trying to hold my own in the world. I never quite felt that I fitted in anywhere, and spent most of my life quite lonely and isolated in my personal life. My only confidence was in my work in the hospitality sector where, paradoxically, I was vibrant and confident. But privately I was a nervous wreck!
I had so many ‘triggers’ that the most random thing could set me off
I would often be blindsided by a word or event which could invoke an anxiety attack; then I would nose-dive into another bout of depression and anxiety. I had also developed a fear of just about anything. To be frank; life sucked.
Then one day I was introduced to the Havening Technique by a family member
And, to be honest, because I had tried everything over the decades, I was sceptical and put it on the back burner of things to do. I suppose I was fed up with the failures. I had resigned myself to the fact that I was never going to be free from anxiety and depression, ever.
Then one day, out of respect for the family member who had gone out of their way to try and help, I took a look at this ‘technique thing’, and gave it a go. The first couple of attempts felt a bit odd. It was new to me so my thoughts would take over, but then I quickly got the hang of it.
Oh, my word! I made a list of the things which had incapacitated me with fear and anxiety throughout most of my decades
These were the severest ones, the repeat offenders, which I wanted to address first. I followed the instructed technique, and each session, on just one of the things I’d listed, took around 10 minutes. Instantly, my anxiety levels dropped! What? So I did it again on the same subject (which had repeatedly imprisoned me all of my life), and my levels dropped again! This was awesome. It was like being practically pain-free in that area for the first time, ever.
The relief was exhilarating and inspired me to Haven the next thing on the list
It worked on that too! So, I used the Havening Technique on an ever-growing list of things that caused me anxiety, right down to the smallest ones. I also used it while walking to a meeting (albeit somewhat discretely). I used it while travelling to a new contract if a felt a bit wobbly, and hey-presto, I felt good and confident about myself each time; and felt no anxiety. Life was beginning to feel good.
That was three years ago, and now I’m a completely different person who is confident in my old, wrinkled skin, for the first time in my life, and medication free too
My family are in awe of the positive changes in me. I’m such a happy, relaxed bunny these days, which has inspired them to Haven areas of their lives they could do with more confidence in.
On top of that, it’s even been used on a couple of my grandchildren who were struggling with stuff at school, like sports or tests, and it worked a treat!
My only regret is this wasn’t around 50 years ago. Oh, how my life would have been different
I’m hoping you all the best in your pursuit to be anxiety free too. I also hope you too will give Havening a go. Like me, you have nothing to lose, but everything to gain.